Do it in person if you can
A text or voice note feels easier, but it's cowardly and cruel. If you've been together long enough to matter, they deserve a face-to-face conversation — or at least a video call if distance makes in-person impossible.
Be honest, not brutal
You don't need to list every flaw. 'I don't see a future together' is enough. Be clear that it's over — ambiguity drags out the pain and gives false hope.
Don't blame or demonise
It's rarely one person's fault. Use 'I' statements — 'I feel we're heading in different directions' — rather than 'You never...' accusations. Respect the time you shared.
Give space afterwards
No immediate friendship, no checking their stories, no 'just checking in' texts. Both of you need clean distance to heal. If you're meant to be friends later, it'll happen when the feelings have settled.